Happiness is like a butterfly;
The more you chase it,
The more it will elude you,
But if you turn your attention
To other things, it will
Come and sit softly
On your shoulder...
(Thoreau.)
Friendship and love.
Forgive me dear reader, for this week Kitty is in a reflective mood. The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune have been battering the hell out of me. So, I turn my attention to the more positive side of life and therefore reflect on the important things in life...friendship and love.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (1926 -2004) reflected...
“People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”
I think the light from within is illuminated by love and friendship from others.
Consider if you will these concepts...
The more you chase it,
The more it will elude you,
But if you turn your attention
To other things, it will
Come and sit softly
On your shoulder...
(Thoreau.)
Friendship and love.
Forgive me dear reader, for this week Kitty is in a reflective mood. The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune have been battering the hell out of me. So, I turn my attention to the more positive side of life and therefore reflect on the important things in life...friendship and love.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (1926 -2004) reflected...
“People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”
I think the light from within is illuminated by love and friendship from others.
Consider if you will these concepts...
Unconditional love
This is the type of love that exists for someone regardless of one’s actions and beliefs. It is something that shows no boundaries. It is the feeling of love for someone without the need of being rewarded. (Professor Mario Beauregard.) To love someone unconditionally is to love someone regardless of one’s actions or beliefs...no matter what they do, you still love them. An example being parents love for a child...they may have tipped undiluted Ribena on your cream carpet...you feel mad, but when you see those big tear-filled eyes your heart melts. That’s unconditional. You still have to correct the behaviour, guide and educate. You cannot measure this love, it is given to another without asking anything in return...you can’t help it, it just is. Agape love as Greek philosophy would describe.
This is the type of love that exists for someone regardless of one’s actions and beliefs. It is something that shows no boundaries. It is the feeling of love for someone without the need of being rewarded. (Professor Mario Beauregard.) To love someone unconditionally is to love someone regardless of one’s actions or beliefs...no matter what they do, you still love them. An example being parents love for a child...they may have tipped undiluted Ribena on your cream carpet...you feel mad, but when you see those big tear-filled eyes your heart melts. That’s unconditional. You still have to correct the behaviour, guide and educate. You cannot measure this love, it is given to another without asking anything in return...you can’t help it, it just is. Agape love as Greek philosophy would describe.
Conditional love
In contrast conditional love needs a finite exchange, it requires dedication and commitment on both sides...It’s a two way street. Both must feel the same way. It is a constant process, to be never taken for granted. Eros is the type of love that is romantic and passionate and intimacy. Whereas friendship 'philia' is a desire for psychological identification (Badhwar 2006) To care for someone you love is to protect them, give them a safe place to hide when they need comfort. It is a bond of trust..Yet self disclosure makes you vulnerable...confidentiality is given without regard to one’s self and ego. Both these types of love require intimacy.
And in quiet times I think about all the people that I love and have loved. And the ones that I love more in my life. In all of it’s different forms, with joy and sorrow, we must experience it all...
I wish you love, friendship and happiness.
K x
In contrast conditional love needs a finite exchange, it requires dedication and commitment on both sides...It’s a two way street. Both must feel the same way. It is a constant process, to be never taken for granted. Eros is the type of love that is romantic and passionate and intimacy. Whereas friendship 'philia' is a desire for psychological identification (Badhwar 2006) To care for someone you love is to protect them, give them a safe place to hide when they need comfort. It is a bond of trust..Yet self disclosure makes you vulnerable...confidentiality is given without regard to one’s self and ego. Both these types of love require intimacy.
And in quiet times I think about all the people that I love and have loved. And the ones that I love more in my life. In all of it’s different forms, with joy and sorrow, we must experience it all...
I wish you love, friendship and happiness.
K x
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